Stop Using Gift Lists - Be Loved

My aim is to kill gift lists, they suck and were created by the devil. This post is outside of the blog's normal subject matter, but indulge me, it tis the season after all. Gift Lists = Shopping Through Others When you hand someone a wish-list you're asking them to buy…

18 is Too Young to Join the Military

Once Upon a Time Much to the surprise of people I meet these days I was at one point in the Navy. Looking back, it was the hardest time of my life. I had joined the Naval Reserve Officer Training Corps (ROTC) at the age of 18 when I wanted…

Transitioning from the Military Work Box

From Following Orders to Creating Them Going from a military career to a civilian one is a unique case of switching career boxes. It can be especially daunting because the military helps manage many parts of your life and has very clear expectations of you. In the civilian world there…

The Modern Work Box Model

TLDR Summary This is a rambling post, I'm thinking it all through. This post explores the Modern Work Box model. In short, people in this model build their careers around themselves and their skill sets rather than around the company they work for. If the Modern Work Box Model Was…

How to Rekindle The Yeses in Your Relationship

TLDR Summary Morph your slothish relationship into a cheetah by using this simple mental model: "Default Yes" over "Default No". The Default No Struggle Relationships are hard, really hard. One aspect I've personally struggled with is their tendency to default to no when it comes to doing new things. When…